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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People need to stop dumping on OP as if security is not something to consider when marrying.

[b]Most people doing the dumping are admittedly married to men who make more and provide a comfortable life. [/b]

So how are any of you better than OP? Because she articulated what some of you thought but would never utter aloud.

Nearly all of you would advise their own daughters to marry someone who can provide. Marry a person sounds cute but we all know that money problems are the #1 cause of divorce.

Get off your high horses and get a grip.

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The reason people are dumping is because 90K at 29 IS a decent salary and if OP was striving to earn the same they would be making 180K combined for two people.  If you make moves so you double your income by combining them but you do things so you don't double expenses (like staying in his or your 1 bedroom that the person was paying the rent/mortgage alone, maybe going down to one car if possible, taking advantage on cell phone plans and some of the insurances like renters insurance to consolidate- you end up doing better together financially than alone.  You take that "savings" and bank more and invest more and this is how you build wealth together.

I do hope my daughters marry someone that is can support themselves and has go-getter attitude with work ethic.  So someone living in mom's basement at 29 or can't scrape up enough to rent an apartment without moving in with my daughter - I would be concerned they would have money problems because honestly they are already coming in with them.  I also would expect my daughter's aren't living in our basement at that age or unable to make enough to rent an apartment at 29 (absent some extraordinary situation like a health reason) so I am not expecting anything of a future partner for my kids that I don't expect from my kids themselves.  Most of the PP didn't meet someone with money but are comfortable now and the woman contributed to that wealth.[/quote]

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