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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I would have probably behaved like you - ended the play-date and informed the father.

However, after hearing all the people who know such cases and are suggesting to call  CPS, I am quite shaken.  Abuse by a father or family member did not even cross my mind.

I am thinking would anyone who is sexually abusing their child let the child go on a playdate or would restrict them at home?  Are they not scared that the child would spill the beans?
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CSA survivor here.

Kids don't tell. Ever. You could present them with video evidence and they would tell you "It's not what it looks like." We know what's happening is wrong, but the unknown of what will happen if we tell is far scarier than that door opening in the middle of the night. We are ashamed. We are terrified. We know that we could implode our family with a single word, and so we don't do it.

I went on playdates. I went to sleepover camp every year -- a religious one, too. I stayed at grandma's for a week every summer. Those were the times I loved -- the times I got to live like a normal person. The times that door never opened.

If you think I was going to tell someone what was happening and end up in God knows where foster care... You are deluded.

That said, I wish to hell someone else had had the strength to make that call.[/quote]

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