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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Anyone here have an [b]open[/b] marriage?  My husband and I just decided to have one.  He wants to have sex with other people, not only because we don't do it enough, and not because he's not attracted to me anymore, but because he feels like he can't be satisfied sexually without having multiple partners.  The book "Mating in Captivity" really spoke to him and he wants to be honest and true to his needs.  I'm ok with it for kind of opposite reasons.  I don't want to have sex with him anymore.  I love him and enjoy being married to him, but I'm not physically attracted to him.  I also just don't have much of a sex drive at all these days.  I'm just not interested.  We both feel like we have a really strong relationship - we get along really well, enjoy each others' company, make each other laugh, support each other through difficulties, co-parent really well.  But when it comes to sex we just completely diverge.  So I said let's just go our separate ways in that area.  Let him go sleep with other people and take the pressure off me.  Then we both get what we want right now.  If at any point I decide I want to go sleep with someone, I can do so.

Obviously the fear is that he (or I if I ever do it) will develop feelings for someone else.  But believe it or not I feel like our marriage is strong enough that I'm not too worried about that.  It probably sounds crazy but it's the way I feel.

OK, go ahead and tell me I'm an idiot and we're crazy, etc.  But I'm also dying to know if there's anyone else out there doing anything like this.  Thanks!

If you do this than you aren't really married because being faithful is what marriage is all about.   What is to keep your DH from leaving you later rather than now?  I'm sorry but, this isn't going to go well.  We knew a couple who did this and they ended up divorced.

Good luck![/quote]

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