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        Anonymous wrote:
        Disagree with the quote. I agree with the idea that no one is 100% guilty and no one is 100% innocent, but in an affair scenario the cheating spouse has a severely compromised moral compass. The other spouse may be depressed, ill, poor at communicating, but two wrongs don't make a right. You should have learned that in elementary school.

If your marriage is bad, END IT. Don't cheat.

I love these platitudes! There is no "I" in team!

Back to the real world, when there are children, and school districts, and families with health issues, and health insurance issues, and economic considerations, 401ks, the idea of "just end it!" is totally meaningless.

It's far, far less messy to [b]just find a way to get discreet needs met outside the marriage[/b], if sex is the only issue. The idea you need to blow up your kids world as the go to response is backwards. Keep your family intact, go do what you need to do if your spouse becomes unwilling to do it.

To me the idea that you need to get sexual needs met so badly that you go outside the marriage is absurd. That one would put children, their schooling, your family, your finances, your home, etc. etc. all at risk for some tail is just.... monstrous. [/quote]

Most adults are able to control their "needs" or find a way to communicate effectively to have their "needs" met.  If children, school districts, families, health insurance, economic issues, 401Ks are all more important to you than your "needs," then you must realize it isn't really a "need" that can't be controlled and is more of a want.  And if you want something that is destructive to your life and that of your loved ones, that makes you an ASSHOLE.

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