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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, a 130 iq is not that big of a deal. Esp in this area. Many many people responding probably have iqs in the 150 range. I do. I read pride and prejudice for fun at 6. And understood almost all of it. That said, I have massive anxiety - many brilliant people do - and I'm not really that successful because I never had to try at anything intellectual.

As far as supporting him now, when you are literally a genius, you do it yourself. Those kind of kids build houses from cards without any kind of instruction, create complex games, read, etc. If your kid isn't developing his intellect on his own, he's average smart. [/quote]

This is OP. I'm troubled by this attitude though. I think there are a lot of gifted kids falling through the cracks that have the same potential and intellect as those that are "successful" in the eyes of society. The public school system failed my husband. It wasn't his fault he was a D student in high school, I truly believe that. How do I do better for my son? and at what age do I start?[/quote]

At some point the responsibility is your husband's. By high school he should have known to apply himself. Or if he was so smart he didn't need to apply himself, then he should have turned in his assignments. Don't let your son make the same mistake of thinking he is too smart to need to work.

There was a kid like this in my high school class. Everyone knew he was brilliant. He knew it too. He sat in class with his back to the class, staring out the window. He never took notes -- didn't need to. He turned in enough work to get As and A minuses, but there were several kids who worked harder and had higher grade point averages. He didn't do well in college because he had never learned to work. He has a middling career now, per Facebook. Hopefully he's happy in his personal life, but I wouldn't be surprised if he's not. Sometimes super smart people expect the world to drop into their lap. They feel entitled to success because they're smart. That's not the way the world works. Most of us average smart people work our butts off for success. There's a reason why, if you read most threads on DCUM about gifted kids, many parents emphasize teaching kids that effort counts as much or more than results.

Work with your son's interests to the extent he wants to. If he likes space, go to the Air and Space museum and talk about it. If he likes science, buy science kits or snap circuits and talk about them. If he likes reading, teach him how to read. Don't push the academics at age 2 just for the sake of pushing. Follow his lead even if it's uneven. And encourage him to explore things he is not good at. Let him fail. And when he is older, if he is clearly interested and talented in certain areas, pursue them if you can. You don't have to map out his entire life at age 2.
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