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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why not just put your baby in daycare, and when your mom is in town, keep baby home to hang out with mom?  That way, your mom can spend time with baby when she is in town, but you aren't screwed looking for backup coverage if she is supposed to come when you don't have nanny coming, and then something comes up and she can't.[/quote]

I think this is a great solution.  You never know when your mother might get sick, or her flight might get cancelled, or after sometime she may find that the travel is too much.

When your mother is out of town DC just doesn't go to day care.

[b]The other option is to find a nanny who is OK with house work and errands.  One week she is full time with DC the next she cleans, cooks, does laundry, grocery shopping etc.[/b]  [/quote]
This. Just be completely up front about it in your job posting and interview. If your mom will be staying with you, there will be extra housework and you'll appreciate it. I also strongly suspect that your mom will cut back to one week a month really quickly...because the whole idea is kind of nuts.

We don't have nearly as frequent grandparent visits, but we have enough that we discussed in detail what would happen when they were visiting. Kids' nanny gets along great with everyone, has often taken my mom grocery shopping, and at this point I don't even need to discuss things with her...she goes out of her way to prepare the guest room etc for visits and forces me to sit down and plan meals ahead etc :)[/quote]
Asking your nanny to do your housework just sreams low class.[/quote]
Well, fine if you think that. But our nanny is experienced, highly paid (on the books), and we are pretty well-off even by DCUM standards. We even offered to pay for her community college classes, but she got a state grant. Our DS has some delays, and she diligently does his PT exercises and comes with us to his medical appointments.

I wouldn't ask a nanny to actually clean (I have a paid service for that), but laundry, dishes, meal planning, and grocery shopping are pretty common tasks for a nanny to take on.[/quote]

[b]I don't just think it honey, it is low class.[/b]
People with actual money have   a cook/chef and a housekeeper and a nanny.

I would call a college student who has done some babysitting and maybe worked in daycare a highly qualified nanny.[/quote]

It seems you are striving to be high class but are not b/c a true high class person would never refer to something as low class nor would they call someone 'honey'.  It simply isn't proper. 
Also based on your comment anyone without a chef, housekeeper and a nanny is low class.  This is simply ridiculous.

The main point is that OP would need to clearly advertise what she is looking for in an employee.  In this case it would be part-time child care and part time house-hold tasks.  They person who takes such a job needs to be OK with the job requirements.[/quote]

I agree with the PP who says that a good infant-care nanny would not want to be doing housework 1/2 the time.  A good infant care nanny likes babies, and takes pride in taking care of them.  That's the job they want to do.  While most are happy to do the basics in clean up (clean up baby toys, wash bottles, empty diaper pail, maybe fold some baby clothes), generally they don't want to be doing housework.  I know this because I've helped my excellent infant nanny find her next 2 placements, and she'd tell me about the jobs she turned down because they expected her to be a house cleaner (one lady wanted her to spend an hour a day ironing clothes!)

If you try to hire a 1/2 nanny, 1/2 housecleaner, you're going to end up with someone inexperience, or who for other reasons can't find a regular nanny job.  [/quote]

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