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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, my mom was the same. She wanted to watch my baby, but on her non-standard schedule. It actually got to be a serious problem. Against my better judgment (and because she was pressuring me so much), I went with her proposal and found very-hard-to-find intermittent but good childcare, but when the reality of caring for a baby hit, she ended up coming up with all sorts of conflicts. Of course, she didn't like to admit it, and so would actually cancel at the very last minute, leaving me without backup plans. Finally, after a several week stretch in which she canceled or altered the schedule 50% of the days that she had previously committed to, I found reliable weekly childcare. It was a scramble, too, because finding good care you trust takes time. All in all, it caused enormous stress that I don't think my mom ever even realized. My life was much better when I told my mom it wasn't working, and that she could continue to spend time with DS but that I was arranging for regular care. All in all, I blame myself in a lot of respects because I knew she was being overly optimistic and had unrealistic expectations of how it would work, but she was so adamant that I gave in, which I shouldn't have done.

I would not start with a schedule that involves logistical difficulties like this. Plane flights get canceled, and the reality of traveling every other week is going to be difficult. If this is your first baby, having that hanging over you will be incredibly stressful. [/quote]

Listen to this person.  She is 100% right.[/quote]

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