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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The problem is not the desire to live near family. The problem is the refusal to compromise.[/quote]

+1.  Well phrased.

Please, OP, go back and re-read the post detailing why serious premarital counseling is essential. As that PP said, do not just do some weekend-long couples retreat with a group. Also don't just do a few sessions with the pastor who's going to do the wedding. Get a therapist who specializes in couples counseling and tell your fiancé that you and he both need to commit to full participation and openness. Your fiancé seems to think that you're going to "come around" in time and do what he tells you. Big red flag--not just about in-laws and their boundaries but also about how much he does or does not respect you as an equal partner with a say in your lives that is equal to his. [/quote]

YEP YEP YEP. You can live next door to his parents or across the country, but that will not change how he respects you as a partner. [/quote]

The first poster is correct in that compromise is the issue, but  OP's fiance is not the only one that needs to been there is a tendency on DCUM and in real life for women to falesly think  counseling is their avenue to  get what they want ( calling it compromise). 
Counseling is a good idea, but OP should not go into it with the attitude that the therapist is going to get her way for her.[/quote]

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