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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hi OP,

I had a similar experience with my DH.  He means well, and really was trying, but would do things that made me livid.  For example he once ran an errand with DD in the car seat and left her in the running car for about 5 minutes while he dropped something off.  I immediately made him aware that this was absolutely unacceptable, and like PP suggested I came at it from the legal angle, showing him articles and telling him stories about people I know that have had CPS called for such a situation.  That really got his attention, he had no idea.

It's honestly a huge learning curve and you have to be careful to not flame him every minute for the small things (I'm talking about not wiping up spitup or something, not leaving kid in car) because it wears on them and in my case he said it made him feel really inadequate when he was trying his best.

My DD is now 2 and DH is much better with her, especially now that she can communicate and tell him her needs (e.g. I'm hungry).  Every time we get in the car I check the car seat straps and gently remind him when they are not correct.  Repeat repeat repeat.[/quote]

I wonder if part of the issue is that our parents did things like that with us. I remember my car seat being in the front seat of my dad's explorer and his leaving me in it to run into the store or whatever. It was fine, nobody was calling CPS. There's plenty of times I start to get anxious about something and realize what my parents did with me was worse and I survived (one being that rubbing hands in grass counted as "washing" when there wasn't water nearby. Still alive!)[/quote]

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