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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your boyfriend has physical conditions (low T and ED and taking meds for other things) that have rendered him asexual. Those can be addressed with meds. He's unable to deal with the situation emotionally, so he's not.

The question is why isn't he jumping at the chance to fix this?
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This is the earlier PP at 10:43. The issue is that he is happy in every way, OP says-- but he refuses to get help for TWO utterly treatable  medical conditions that affect not only him but also the GF he says he loves.

OP, why does he refuse medical help for two, not uncommon, easily treated medical conditions?[b] He is willing to accept treatment and meds for his anxiety[/b]. This is Op. I don't know. I've asked him and he says he's not taking more medicine. [/quote][/quote]

So ask him for a reason why he is willing to treat one thing but not others. Talk with him and don't take deflection as an answer.
If he sees a life together for you as a couple, that life will not succeed unless you and he can communicate effectively. Neither of you is doing that right now.

Possibly he feels that sexual problems are a failure of will and if he admits he needs meds to have sex, he's not manly, or he's weak, or he's let you down. None of that is true but if it's what he believes on some level, he may need a therapist as well as a doctor to treat ED and low T. He needs to see that these are problems he did not create and cannot fix on his own--and you cannot fix them either, no matter how hard you try in initiating sex.

Your role is to be the adult he is apparently too scared to be when it comes to these problems. Consider too that this refusal to get treatment may reflect his anxiety breaking through despite meds. Tell him you are not angry, you love him, and he will see a doctor ASAP and treat this like the medical issue it is. Like he treats his anxiety. Tell him that this choice of his to ignore his ED and low T affects you, not just him, and he needs to see a doctor for both your sakes. Go with him. [/quote]

Incidentally, anxiety and depression are symptoms of low T. If he gets TRT he may not need to treat his anxiety separately.[/quote]

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