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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know about your friend's particular situation but reproductive coercion is a definite thing that happens in abusive relationships.

http://www.acog.org/Resources-And-Publications/Committee-Opinions/Committee-on-Health-Care-for-Underserved-Women/Reproductive-and-Sexual-Coercion
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This. Your friend is in an abusive relationship, and she may not have seen it, until now.  Give her the number of the National Domestic Violence Hotline and suggest she call them.  1-800-799-SAFE  They have a few articles about this on their website, thehotline.org

http://www.thehotline.org/2013/07/from-broken-condoms-to-pill-tampering-the-realities-of-reproductive-coercion/

http://www.thehotline.org/2011/02/1-in-4-callers-surveyed-at-the-hotline-report-birth-control-sabotage-and-pregnancy-coercion/
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I don't think we have enough information yet for this conclusion.  Her after-the-fact insistence that he wanted her to get pregnant is not enough.  People often look at facts in a certain light in retrospect.  That's not enough.  What if she said after the fact that he didn't want her to get pregnant?[/quote]

Put down the legal pad and take it down to the friend-to-friend level.  OP said her friend "is blaming the guy" for forcing a pregnancy on her that it sounds like she didn't want.  OP doesn't have to "prove" anything, and as a friend should take her friend's word for it.  If OP's friend came to her and instead said her boyfriend pushed her, she'd be inclined to believe her, no?  So my recommendation is to pass along the DVH number to her.  Let them guide her friend in the way they think best for her needs; they have the professional training, and that's what they're there for.

https://www.domesticshelters.org/domestic-violence-articles-information/he-s-forcing-me-to-get-pregnant#.WT-1ZXT3ahA
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I'm talking about your conclusion that this is an abusive relationship, not OP's offering help.[/quote]

Did you read any of the links I provided?   Reproductive coercion happens.  Forcing something as life changing as a baby on someone who hasn't expressed their consent to it is being controlling.  Controlling behavior is emotionally abusive.  [/quote]

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