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[quote=Anonymous][quote]He works and maternity leave is leave for YOU, not him, to take care of baby![/quote]

Her maternity leave is not for HIM to go out all the time after work.

We worked it out this way. During the day, DH worked at his job and I worked at home, with the baby.  He had his full time job and I had my full time job. And then the time outside of the "work day" --6 pm to 8 am, we more or less split /shared parenting duties. So, smetimes when he got home, I handed him the kid and took a break. Didn't matter where--starbucks, a walk, a nap, the gym. He got to spend one on one time with his child, I got a break.  When we were able to put baby down around 7:30 or 8, we would have dinner together as a couple. I did most nights, but he was up sometimes too, usually did the early morning feed or the diaper changes, etc.

This was good because when we had a second child, there was more work and we were both used to sacrificing 'me time' for a while.

this did not mean that he did not go out on occasion with friends--but during those early months, he knew that I needed that break from being with an infant all day long. He had oppoortunities at work to work out, have lunch with friends, etc. It was not like he was slaving in an office 13 hours a day eating ramen.

Just because a woman gives birth, nurses and is the one to take maternity leave doesn't mean the father suddenly has a free pass to abdicate parenting.  When is he going to become a parent? when the child is less work?

Anyway OP, there are a couple ways to handle this. If he is going out 2x/week then another 2x/week you should hand him baby when he comes home and you go out. Or, leave him with the baby all day saturday. [/quote]

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