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[quote=Anonymous]OP, If you're still reading, I want you to know that I feel your pain.

Please ignore the nasty posters. I used to post here about my SN kid, and there were always nasty posters. I don't know why they do this. Maybe they are teenaged trolls, but it's upsetting when you are trying to deal with a real problem.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel. I admit there were some pretty bad days, and days I thought my marriage was over. Something like half of marriages end when there's an SN kid involved. It is so supremely stressful. There were days when I would go to bed and pray to God to help me like my child! I would go into her room while she was asleep and look at her and remember what she was like when she was a baby, before all the awful behavior began, so I could remember that I love her, despite the horror of her behavior.

My DD is much better now, and so is my marriage. DH finally got on board, and after I threatened to divorce him, started paying attention, dealing with his own stress, taking meds for depression, and focusing on his child. It was not easy to get there, and it was DH's choice. If he hadn't made that choice, we'd probably be divorced.

Just take it one step at a time, OP. You've got meds. They may or may not work (meds did not work for me at all!), but if you're not feeling better, try a different med. The fact that you're trying to do something for yourself is an important first step. A couple days a week of day care will give you time to find yourself a job. Keep working at that. A job will give you money and independence and separation from both your child and DH.

Keep trying, and you will find solutions. It's not easy, it's exhausting, but keep going for yourself and your child.

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