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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the "now I'm getting divorced" PP's point is that if a person demonstrates a lack of consideration repeatedly - which may or may not be the case for the OP - wasting a ton of time expecting them to change into a considerate person is dumb. Change yourself. Figure out what you can love with. Plan accordingly. [/quote]

But her point is rendered moot by the fact that she "would be pissed" by the behavior to start with, and finds that it isn't considerate.  Most of us in happy marriages would not be "pissed", don't need our husbands to check in every 30 minutes and don't passive aggressively hold dinner until late at night to guilt trip them when they do come home.  She is definitely contributing to her own problems and people who are looking for every little thing to find offense are not helping their marriages succeed.  I am not perfect but I do TRY not to sabotage my own marriage by acting like a bitch.  Hopefully this is a blip, which happens to everyone sometimes after a stressful week.  If it is a pattern, OP should think about whether she wants to change it to something more positive.[/quote]

I am that PP and I said I would be pissed in the beginning.  In other words, the OP's feelings are valid.  I am not offended by the fact that you implied the problems in my marriage was that I was a bitch.  I love being referred to as a bitch and I will own it when that is the role I am taking on.  This situation was not one of those times.

I didn't need my husband to check in every 30 min.  OP also didn't say that she needed that either.

I actually encouraged OP to come up with other alternatives to feeling upset with DH and echoed other PP's recommendations.

I also thought it important to note that I am divorced, so take my advice with that grain of salt.  Whatever you want your future to be.  [/quote]

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