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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, one of my kids had severe gross motor delays during his first few years, and some associated issues that required a lot of intervention. It so happened that his birth coincided w/a major professional setback for my husband and he became very depressed. We had an older child and I work FT so I didn't really have the luxury to do anything other than just keep going.

What strikes me is that you are seeing all your problems through the lens of your child's SN -- despite the fact that you mention that he's now on track. You might want to explore why that is; from what you posted, it doesn't sound like your child's hypotonia is really the stressor in your life right now, other things are. So why are you focusing on the SN issues instead of your own unhappiness or your husband's drinking problem?[/quote]

Thank you for the response.  I posted here because I feel we are at impasse - pt isn't seeming to contribute much but I am loath to stop because my kiddo still has some delays.  It is getting so hard to have sessions with the fits (thank you pp for the Kazdin rec).  Further, now is when we have to decide whether to assess whether to see ongoing serviced after the third birthday-- and my husband doesn't even want/support my getting an eval.  While I do think I need antidepressants and a job, and to stabilize myself before deciding what I can handle with h my husbands alcoholism, there are issues tied strictly into EI/SN stuff.  I'm focused on all of it but I'm here because I do worry there may be some behavioral stuff brewing.  We saw a ped neuro after starting pt at my pushing.  He asked if we had noticed a low frustration threshold-- i Do and DH doesn't.  (after that appt DH stormed at me that my kid would have been fine with no EI.  Absolutely not true - no crawling for 14 months).

I know I'm depressed.  I'm in therapy and focusing on what I can do.  But there is a SN piece and I will never believe this dynamic of me trying to confront delays with a depressed, angry, drinking and in denial spouse didn't add hugely to my issues.   Even if that's an unattractive thing to write.[/quote]

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