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[quote=Anonymous]14:45 here again.

While I do think it is a red flag if you have to "chase" a guy, I also think it's a red flag if a guy pursues you too hard.

I think if the relationship is one-sided (one person is the pursued and the other does all of the chasing), that just doesn't set a very good stage for a partnership.

I think you also run the risk of being cheated on.  Some guys love the pursuit.  But when they have you, the thrill is gone and they want to pursue something else.

I just can't imagine being in a long-term relationship where games always have to be played (like the person references about being coy).  I don't think that leads to a strong marriage, the kind of marriage that withstands difficult times or tragedies.

To OP, you have to strike the right balance.   It's really hard to make a relationship out of one person chasing another.  That's fine for a fling.

The other thing that no one has mentioned is that maybe if you are doing all of this "chasing," you seem desperate, which scares people away.  No person (man or woman) wants to feel like they are being put on a track.  If you seem too fixated on marriage, it can make people feel like you aren't really interested (or even pursuing them); rather, you are in pursuit of some goal, and they're just filling the spot.[/quote]

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