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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I went to Syracuse and he went to Florida State. He was an average student, I can't say for sure that he tried too hard. But his parents never made college an option. I don't think I ever saw how unmotivated he is until we moved in together since I now know he is home all day (except for gym, meeting friends for lunch). He was still working for his dad up until a year and a half ago.

I have had a discussion with him a couple times and [b]his position is that he is very fortunate to not need to work, ever, so he doesn't want to waste his time in some job he isn't really passionate about.[/b] I completely understand that, but think he still needs to find something to do - volunteer, get a hobby or whatever. He now claims he wants to start his own business, but has no idea what it is yet.[/quote]

What a crappy family he has come from - they have basically handicapped him, keeping him from growing up.  How selfish - apparently they'd rather have their man-child there to parent forever. What crap do you think they'll do to you and your future kids, turning the screws with their money?
Starting your own business is all consuming and he doesn't have  the skill set for that so I wouldn't want to be there to witness that.

Do this guy a favor and run for it. [/quote]

Excellent point here about how your BF's family and their attitude toward money and work is as important as BF's own laziness. Reread this, OP. And the post above about the example he would set for any kids you have.

His family holds his purse strings. You would be marrying a dependent child who does not see his own dependence. If you married and you were to lose your job or get seriously ill or injured, how would he step up, not just financially but in terms of helping with kids, the house, etc.? Farm it all out to hired help paid for by his family?

These are not, at their roots, questions about money or laziness. They're questions about core values. His are very different from yours. If you as a couple hit a crisis, have a child with medical or other problems , etc. how will his values influence his reaction to those situations, OP?[/quote]

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