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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] Once kids come around, his laziness will be the source of all your fights.  You can outsource lots of things, but being a dad and partner in parenting is not something you can outsource.  Get out now before you have kids.[/quote]

+1. My STBX was lazy before we married, I just never saw it until we got married and moved in together. When I came over, he would always cook for us and clean the whole house. Projects got fixed right away. But it was only a facade he kept. Actually, this happened twice to me. My first husband -- I found out later that it was his dad who made sure his bills were paid, truck was clean, and that he presented as having his shit together.

When my STBX and I had DD, even when I was pregnant, all that laziness meant I did most of taking care of house, yard and child. There was always some excuse why he didn't or couldn't help.[b] He mostly surfed the internet. [/b]But when we were friends, he was out volunteering with me all the time.

If the money will always be there from his family, that is good. I would not be okay with this either. I came from a family with high work ethic also. Because of your work ethic, you will get more resentful when the kids come, because maybe you were taught that we are all suppose to do what needs to be done.

Have you talked to your family about this? What did they say? My family has been through hell, and they would want me to be happy. They know what lazy partners do.[/quote]

These types love the Internet and video games.

What's worse is that they won't have the ambition or energy to accomplish anything at work or at home but will resent you when you're able to do so.  My ex was lazy at work and resented my success.  Yet he wasn't willing or able to make the money we needed to support the lifestyle we desired. [/quote]

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