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[quote=Anonymous]-does most of the laundry
-primary breadwinner, doing something he likes, but doesn't love, which pays well (this really takes a lot of pressure off me and allows me to be the type of mom i want to be)
-if i ask him to wake up to take kiddo for a couple hours in the morning so i can catch up on sleep he'll do it
-he deep cleans the house better than i do about every couple of weeks
-does about half the grocery shopping
-cooks a few times a week (we never really eat out)
-plans trips for me to places he knows i want to go

what he can't (or isn't good at) doing:
doesn't like fancy restaurants or crowds
doesn't like small talk so not much of a conversationalist (he's more introverted than i am)
taxes or bill paying 
scheduling/managing kid appts and registrations
he's much more fiscally conservative than i am, and can't buy me fancy presents (I am personally not interested in these)

also he has hobbies that i'm not into that he does a few times a week, which i opt out of.

what we like to do together:
outdoorsy/nature stuff
travel
cuddling
playing with our kiddo (literally we fight over who gets to hold him)

for us these tradeoffs work.  before i met him i had a lot of preconceived ideas about what i wanted/needed in a partner, which turns out were wrong.  i'm not sure if its easier to let go of things i thought i needed/wanted because he's so great at showing me love/support in other ways, or if i didn't really need the things i thought i needed, or if i've just grown out of wanting them when things got real.  what i'm saying is, i wonder if its not really possible to know how things are going to work until you're in the trenches with a crying baby, a tax bill, a house closing, a sick family member, a hospitalization...etc, etc.  i frankly often think we just lucked out, because  i've seen couples who were better 'matched' on paper than we were not be able to make it work through life's challenges.  i wish i knew what the magic formula or compatibility indicator is but i'm not sure there even is one. [/quote]

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