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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  The reason I asked the question is because I think most of us when we first have kids, deep down think that maybe (just maybe) our child will be the next Einstein, Bill Gates, Oprah, etc.  We track their development and are excited they are speaking X amount of words by age Y, or they started walking early at 9 months, etc.  But as they get older, most of us, I think, realize they are just normal (or average) and suddenly there's no more pressure and you start to relax and actually enjoy your kids for who they are.  That's all I was getting at.  One of my nieces tested in the top 1% when she was tested for entrance to a private school for Kindergarten, and another started reading by age 3 and is an amazing artist at age 6.  I celebrate their gifts and achievements and no longer feel compelled to compare my kids.[/quote]

Then I am confused why you posted this. It sounds like you're asking advice in your OP but now you're acting like you've already processed this and are doing just fine accepting your non-gifted kid.

[b]You shouldn't have to "accept" a kid or ever feel compelled to compare them. They're individual human beings. [/b]They're better at some stuff than others, worse at other things. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. I guess I just don't get why you think everyone has to come to terms with the radical notion that kids are their own people. [/quote]

not op, but a lot of people are competitive and often compare themselves to others. of course they are going to compare their kids. that's they way many people are.

it should also be noted that a lot of people who don't care about giftedness also compare themselves and their kids. they just use different dimensions. i can imagine kylie jenner and kim kardashina comparing numbers of followers and feel good/bad as result. "noncompetitive" parents here will often point out that some gifted kid didn't do so well while their average kid is in fact popular and successful. [/quote]

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