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[quote=Anonymous]In the net of creating work as visitors vs all things being even vs actually helping, my ILs create net work in our house and my parents are usually on the actual helping end and never on the creating net work in our house end.

My ILs couldn't fathom why I didn't have a hot lunch ready for them precisely at noon every day when they came to visit when we had a 6 week old. And they refuse to rent a car and demand to be driven everywhere, have peculiar diets that change every time they visit so even if you try to be prepared with all the things they insisted they had to have on the last visit, you'd be wrong this time and stuck with the world's largest container of flax seed or whatever. ::eyeballs the 12 cans of tuna they put in our shopping cart on the last visit::

What helps? Well, now that my children are older, I often leave town for part of their visit. They aren't here to see me, they aren't really here to see the kids, they mostly want to hang with my husband. Fine by me! It also helps me to be able to break up the visit into two smaller chunks. I'm better able to tolerate their needling, their messes, the things they break (on every visit! They break things! I have no idea how they manage it, but it shows a complete lack of respect for our house and our things in my mind), the neediness over everything if I'm there with them 3 days, then leave for 3 days, then I'm there again for another 3 days. I think it works out better for them anyway so they can have my husband's undivided attention after the kids go to bed. [/quote]

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