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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If someone wants to cheat, they will find a way. You are extremely naive if you think saying no dinners with the opposite sex will prevent cheating.[/quote]

This, exactly.

I have female friends who I occasionally stay with - they were FRIENDS and predated my wife's presence in my life by more than a decade, and nothing happened.  The nature of this friendship is as part of a larger group, and involves travel to another part of the country, partying (serious drinking - not just food) and involves me staying with these female friends in their guest rooms sometimes.

I was in a marriage prior to my current one - with a chronically insecure and controlling woman.  I had no idea how unpleasant and oppressive that was until I broke out of it and we divorced.  [b]I am never going back in that box again.[/b]  You don't have to trust me - I can't force you to - but I am not cheating and I'm not going to act like I am or as if I might.  I made it very clear that I wasn't going to stop doing these activities with this group, and that was the price of admission for being with me - she was free to dump me if it was a deal breaker. I put it out there long before we got serious.  I talked to my now-wife about these other women (they are part of a group of men and women and couples) early and often, because honestly, if she'd reacted poorly with this insecure controlling BS, that was going to be a deal-breaker for me.

You either can trust the person, or you can't, but you can't prevent an untrustworthy person from cheating on you by limiting and controlling them.[/quote]

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