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[quote=Anonymous]This thread has strangely been on my mind lately as I am a lurker and read it a few days ago. I'm surprised that so many people said that it wouldn't bother them at all, or even that someone said it made them really sad.

I am a 33 year old mother of 3 young children with a combined income of around 200 but significant student loan debt. My retired mother consistently does the same thing to us and its actually harming our relationship. She wants to be invited places with us (i.e., acts passive aggressively if not invited when the kids tell her about going places), but yet when we go she acts like she's never heard of the concept of money. If I bite the bullet and tell her straight out to pay for herself, she gets huffy and acts angry which influences the mood of the outing.

I'm happy to treat my mom to nice birthday/holiday/Mother's day gifts, and to pick up the tab occasionally, but whats up with this idea of the adult children always paying when we have significantly more costs to absorb? We have student loan debt, 2 mortgages (one rental), college savings, a car loan. She has adequate savings and a pension.

Its not cultural as we are white bread Catholics.

Okay vent over. [/quote]

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