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[quote=Anonymous]Yes, my kids are young adults. And I am 49 years old. So probably not too much older than you. My family has BOTH technology and good manners. They aren't mutually exclusive. You don't need to take his iPad away when he is at home. That's up to you. But try going on a visit without it and I'm guessing things will be better with his cousins. It sounds like you have a hard time saying no to your son. Be the adult and work on manners. Sounds like you have gotten similar real-life feedback from at least one other parent besides your SIL. It's hard to take an honest look at ourselves and our kids. But you knew something was wrong which is why you posted.

There is a girl in my community who is like your son. (She is also an only child.) She became increasingly spoiled and inflexible as she grew older. Other parents tired of her first and rarely had her over. Eventually, by high school, other students did too and she became isolated. She had constant roommate issues in college and eventually moved back home. Her parents never said no and never encouraged manners with her as she was growing up. Her mom is the kindest, most polite, loveliest person, but she raised a daughter who is the opposite and is now a very isolated young adult. She did her no favors. You are doing your son no favors. It doesn't matter to me AT ALL what you decide to do, but I've been around long enough to see that this isn't going to turn out well. Set the limits now.

FWIW, 90% of my friends who have one child have an amazing and unspoiled kid. The trajectory you are on doesn't have to happen just because he is an only.

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