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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Both you and your DH have major issues. Neither of you is right or better. You both are seriously messed up. [/quote]

Op here: I recognize my issues, i-e i need to learn to communicate when im angry instead of shutying down. But i am not okay with my DH not allowing me time to cool down, which escalates the fight and him chasing me around the house from room to room wheh. Im trying to get away[/quote]

I posted above re: communicating when you're upset and getting counseling.

We were exactly the same, but opposite.  Meaning he would shut down and I felt abandoned when he did, so I would try everything I could to connect, only to push him away more.  Obvi we never learned appropriate conflict resolution skills.  A good counselor can help, but both parties have to be willing to forgive the bad behavior and put in the work to make changes.  Good luck.  [/quote]

This is exactly our dynamic, but reverse, im the distancer and hes the pursuer, the more  he tries  to  connect, the more it pushes me away. We have an appt for counseling in a few days. Thanks for sharing[/quote]

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