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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] OP here. We have a joint checking account for rent, food, gas, household supplies, etc, and then each have separate savings accounts and checking accounts, his for his child support, mine for my eldercare. We didn't combine all of our money when we married, mainly because my ex husband had a bad gambling habit and blew through a lot of my money before I came to my senses and we split up.

I don't have that issue with my current husband, thank goodness, and I'd like to think we're in team. It's just that recently, I've started wondering how others split IVF costs and if I'm being taken advantage of, or if it's a fair deal.  It's not something I'd really talk about with other couples round the dinner table, so I'm grateful for your blunt and constructive thoughts. The physical process of IVF is hard enough, the financial and emotional part can be devastating. [/quote]

Does he have the cash flow to contribute to the expense?  My H has a child from his previous marriage, and even though he makes a good salary , after child support and paying into our joint account, he didn't have much leftover.  Whereas I have had a lot more "disposable" income.  We didn't do IVF, but if we had, I would have probably had to pay the lion's share.    But,  I don't think my H would have ever said he wasn't paying...if that make sense -  it's not that you're covering the cost, it's his attitude about it.

As an aside,   daycare comes out of my account - partly for the reasons described above, partly because I want to be able to cover my child's expenses on my own after. [/quote]

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