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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents & the parents of 8 of my girlfriends let us go to Acapulco for Spring Break when we were juniors as well.

Thankfully nothing happened as we were all pretty responsible kids, but we definitely drank 7 a few hooked up with boys (nothing major, just making out mostly), but now I'm thinking to myself "what the hell were my parents thinking????"  I guess I had proved how responsible I was but even with that being said, there is NO WAY on God's green earth would I let any of MY kids go ANYWHERE for Spring Break while in high school (and they are all very responsible, have great grades & are respectful!).

Especially with boy(s) that are two years older making mine the baby??  That's just a recipe for disaster & there could be a huge amount of peer pressure / trying things he's not ready for just to seek the older kids approval

Oh & it's not just yours, they all try & guilt us by pulling that BS line "you're the only one who says no" (I stopped believing that one in 3rd grade ;) ).

No way, ever, nuh uh, NOPE![/quote]

I think that your thinking is the norm.  I also think that thinking is wrong and could result in a rebound effect.

By not allowing your kids to live a little, you are by definition holding them back a bit.  Once they get to college, they may be more likely to go a bit more crazy than if they were allowed more freedom in high school.

I think a lot of this is due to social media and parent shaming. Before the internet, you only needed to listen to the nervous nellies on your block or at your work.  Now its 1,000's of well meaning people with stories to tell (think funny story about kids going to the beach and getting in trouble drinking).  The only stories that you hear about are the disasters and hence it become almost a fact that any times you let a teen have some freedom they will crash.

This of course is simply not true. I have three kids spaced about 5 years apart.  My older DD wanted to travel to Japan with a friend during the summer between her Junior and Senior year in high school. We listened to their plan and let her go for three weeks.  The girls loved the experience and still talk about it today. She is now in her 3rd year of med school and is doing great.  [/quote]

I'm the person you quoted who went  to Acapulco with friends & in some ways I agree with you.
As I said, we were all very responsible girls & maybe it's because our parents all gave us the type of freedom we were allowed back at home (because we were all responsible) that we didn't go overboard when we got to Acapulco.  Although, I remember in my sophomore year another girl went to a party with us & her parents were SUPER strict, they never let her off the leash, she lied about everywhere she went & at that very first party she went to (when they went out of town) she went & she got completely shitfaced!  They came home the next day & she was STILL drunk!  The funny thing is, her parents blamed it all on the 6 of us who DIDNT even drink as being the bad influences on their sweet little baby & she wasn't allowed to hang out with us anymore (they went so far as to make sure she didn't have any classes with any of us!)

Fast forward 5 years later & she was in rehab for a full blown addiction to coke.  :cry: [/quote]

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