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[quote=Anonymous]Honestly, OP. If you need "permission" to start work at 8:05 instead of 8, it's hard to imagine you are a "professional woman".  Most professionals aren't literally clocking in and out.  There is an expectation that I am at work during standard hours, but no one is watching the clock. Assuming my work is done and done well, no one cares whether I get to work at 8 or 9. And no one is watching to see when I leave.

Reality check -  Being career military (assuming your DH is a senior NCO or an Officer) in DC is a tough assignment.  His time belongs to the military.  And while the military is becoming more family friendly, most branches aren't there yet. I remember hearing "if the Army wanted you to have a family, they would have issued you one" many times.

If your spouse plans to make the military his career, you will not have one. You will have jobs. But especially as he advances in rank, the demands on both him and on you increase. He is married to you, but he belongs to the military. You accept that and find a way to make it work. If you don't, his career will suffer, he will resent you, and you will both be unhappy.

It's not "fair" but it's reality.  You chose this life when you married him.

Signed,
Daughter of a retired 3-star General
Wife of a former Colonel who is now a Fed. [/quote]

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