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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My boyfriend and I have been dating over a year. When I first met him, I had a few guy friends that had told me that they had feelings for me. I distanced myself from them because it made my boyfriend uncomfortable to talk to them. One in particular lives 3 hours away and I only ever heard from him once a month or so. One time when he came to town, he ended up being at a bar that my gf and I were at and I noticed him as I was leaving. I sat down at his table with him and a few of his friends, just catching up, I wasnt there long. I then received a text from my boyfriend that he was outside the bar watching me. It resulted in a huge fight. I have since deleted that friend from Facebook and any other social media, as well as from my cell phone.

A few months ago, I met a guy through my mutual gf. He works at the place she goes frequently to eat and drink. He is harmless. I met him a few times while being there with her. Once when I went in there, his coworker had told me that this guy had a crush on me. He is nobody I would ever date or want to be with, he is pretty much just a nice harmless man. He friend requested me on Facebook and at the time, I told my boyfriend that I wasnt going to accept the friend request. Fast forward to a few weeks later and about 5 huge fights with my boyfriend, I accepted this guys request.

My boyfriend feels like I have lied to him. He feels like I am trying to meet single men. I really dont have any interest in anyone else except my boyfriend, and I certainly would never be anymore than a friend to this guy even if I wasnt in a relationship. 
I told my boyfriend that what bothers me most is our constant arguments that we have, and yes, I originally told him that I wouldn't add this person, but given we have recently had a lot of arguments, I added him.

My boyfriend now wants to take time to think about if he can "handle being with me". Is he being jealous and insecure or am I doing something wrong? [/quote]

1) "nice harmless man" ... you don't like him, fine, but you like that he likes you. And what seems harmless isn't always ... when somebody REALLY likes you, they can be persistent. 
2) You added him because you had a fight with your boyfriend. This is juvenile and petty. You said you wouldn't (that's a whole 'nother thing) but you did because you had a fight. Do you see how wrong that behavior is?
3) You are having constant arguments. Do you LIKE your boyfriend? Why the arguments??? Good relationships should NOT consist of constant arguments.

Given that you have a crappy relationship, you are juvenile, and your boyfriend is obviously a little possessive/jealous (rightly so, apparently) you guys need to break up.[/quote]

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