Anonymous wrote:OP, does this guy have friends of his own?

Anonymous wrote:He's abnormally jealous and crazy. You however are a tad instigating. No matter what you should just ditch Facebook. You two sound like middle schoolers.

Anonymous wrote:I find his behavior jealous and controlling and would not tolerate it. And no, I have never cheated. It is no one's place to dictate with whom his/her partner associates or befriends.

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend and I have been dating over a year. When I first met him, I had a few guy friends that had told me that they had feelings for me. I distanced myself from them because it made my boyfriend uncomfortable to talk to them. One in particular lives 3 hours away and I only ever heard from him once a month or so. One time when he came to town, he ended up being at a bar that my gf and I were at and I noticed him as I was leaving. I sat down at his table with him and a few of his friends, just catching up, I wasnt there long. I then received a text from my boyfriend that he was outside the bar watching me. It resulted in a huge fight. I have since deleted that friend from Facebook and any other social media, as well as from my cell phone.

A few months ago, I met a guy through my mutual gf. He works at the place she goes frequently to eat and drink. He is harmless. I met him a few times while being there with her. Once when I went in there, his coworker had told me that this guy had a crush on me. He is nobody I would ever date or want to be with, he is pretty much just a nice harmless man. He friend requested me on Facebook and at the time, I told my boyfriend that I wasnt going to accept the friend request. Fast forward to a few weeks later and about 5 huge fights with my boyfriend, I accepted this guys request.

My boyfriend feels like I have lied to him. He feels like I am trying to meet single men. I really dont have any interest in anyone else except my boyfriend, and I certainly would never be anymore than a friend to this guy even if I wasnt in a relationship.
I told my boyfriend that what bothers me most is our constant arguments that we have, and yes, I originally told him that I wouldn't add this person, but given we have recently had a lot of arguments, I added him.

My boyfriend now wants to take time to think about if he can "handle being with me". Is he being jealous and insecure or am I doing something wrong?

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you even asking your boyfriend about a facebook friend request ? And why does he care ? You both need to re-evaluate your relationship. Do you want/need that kind of drama ? Does he? It sounds like he is really controlling. But you also sound more than a bit like you are trying to provoke him. It sounds like a miserable relationship.

Op Here. I never asked him, he saw the request.

He also doesn't like it when I am on my phone while we are together. I usually get up in the mornings before him and if I roll over and look at my phone, he doesn't like that. He accused me once of setting my alarm so I could be on my phone while he sleeps. When he saw me out at the bar, it wasn't the first time he has followed me or seen me out. I once told him I was going home but met a gf that he did not like, at a bar and he followed me there. I didn't tell him I was going because I knew he would be upset.
I have told him that his reactions to things make it so I feel he will be uncomfortable with the truth.

Anonymous wrote:I would side with you, except for the fact that you added this guy as a friend after arguing with your boyfriend about it many times. Were you trying to get back at your boyfriend? I think you both need to grow up a bit. And yes, your boyfriend sounds controlling.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you even asking your boyfriend about a facebook friend request ? And why does he care ? You both need to re-evaluate your relationship. Do you want/need that kind of drama ? Does he? It sounds like he is really controlling. But you also sound more than a bit like you are trying to provoke him. It sounds like a miserable relationship.

Op Here. I never asked him, he saw the request.

He also doesn't like it when I am on my phone while we are together. I usually get up in the mornings before him and if I roll over and look at my phone, he doesn't like that. He accused me once of setting my alarm so I could be on my phone while he sleeps. When he saw me out at the bar, it wasn't the first time he has followed me or seen me out. I once told him I was going home but met a gf that he did not like, at a bar and he followed me there. I didn't tell him I was going because I knew he would be upset.
I have told him that his reactions to things make it so I feel he will be uncomfortable with the truth.

Break up. He followed you to a bar? You didn't tell him you were going because you knew he would be upset that you were seeing friends? He checks your phone? Run the hell away, OP.

+1000

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you even asking your boyfriend about a facebook friend request ? And why does he care ? You both need to re-evaluate your relationship. Do you want/need that kind of drama ? Does he? It sounds like he is really controlling. But you also sound more than a bit like you are trying to provoke him. It sounds like a miserable relationship.

Op Here. I never asked him, he saw the request.

He also doesn't like it when I am on my phone while we are together. I usually get up in the mornings before him and if I roll over and look at my phone, he doesn't like that. He accused me once of setting my alarm so I could be on my phone while he sleeps. When he saw me out at the bar, it wasn't the first time he has followed me or seen me out. I once told him I was going home but met a gf that he did not like, at a bar and he followed me there. I didn't tell him I was going because I knew he would be upset.
I have told him that his reactions to things make it so I feel he will be uncomfortable with the truth.

Break up. He followed you to a bar? You didn't tell him you were going because you knew he would be upset that you were seeing friends? He checks your phone? Run the hell away, OP.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you even asking your boyfriend about a facebook friend request ? And why does he care ? You both need to re-evaluate your relationship. Do you want/need that kind of drama ? Does he? It sounds like he is really controlling. But you also sound more than a bit like you are trying to provoke him. It sounds like a miserable relationship.

Op Here. I never asked him, he saw the request.

He also doesn't like it when I am on my phone while we are together. I usually get up in the mornings before him and if I roll over and look at my phone, he doesn't like that. He accused me once of setting my alarm so I could be on my phone while he sleeps. When he saw me out at the bar, it wasn't the first time he has followed me or seen me out. I once told him I was going home but met a gf that he did not like, at a bar and he followed me there. I didn't tell him I was going because I knew he would be upset.
I have told him that his reactions to things make it so I feel he will be uncomfortable with the truth.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you even asking your boyfriend about a facebook friend request ? And why does he care ? You both need to re-evaluate your relationship. Do you want/need that kind of drama ? Does he? It sounds like he is really controlling. But you also sound more than a bit like you are trying to provoke him. It sounds like a miserable relationship.

Op Here. I never asked him, he saw the request.

He also doesn't like it when I am on my phone while we are together. I usually get up in the mornings before him and if I roll over and look at my phone, he doesn't like that. He accused me once of setting my alarm so I could be on my phone while he sleeps. When he saw me out at the bar, it wasn't the first time he has followed me or seen me out. I once told him I was going home but met a gf that he did not like, at a bar and he followed me there. I didn't tell him I was going because I knew he would be upset.
I have told him that his reactions to things make it so I feel he will be uncomfortable with the truth.