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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I'm sorry you're going through this. I have younger kids so can't offer any parenting advice. But, I can say that I personally was (1) spoiled and (2) fairly depressed and angsty and miserable in late high school and early college. I hope I didn't treat my parents this way, but I wouldn't be terribly surprised if I did.

My dad yelled at me one time when I was home visiting, really laid into me, for picking up a cashmere throw that belonged to my stepmother and taking it outside to cover up while I sat on a dirty porch chair. He told me I needed to have respect for other people's things, to not assume I had access to everything, and to remember that the world didn't revolve around me. It was harsh at the time, but I still remember it and have ever since tried to act like a respectful guest now when I'm home. Point being, talk straight with your kids about what you expect and brook no dissent. They are adults now and should be acting like it. Neither you nor anyone else is their punching bag for whatever else is going on in their lives.[/quote]

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The circumstances of my falling out with my father were different, but the underlying lesson was the same.

I have seen him once in the past fifteen years. He has not and hopefully never will meet DC. (I don't want to expose him to that man.) We're basically strangers, and I don't want anything to do with him. Ever.

Don't "lay into" your kids, OP. They're being entitled jerks, because you raised them that way. But they will grow up and assume responsibilities and feel thankful in life. Unless you choose to be a dick to them.[/quote]

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