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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I am already seeing an RE (I have gone to see 3 for a second opinion) including the DOR expert at Cornell who told me he does not think I have DOR despite my .4 AMH because my AFC is so high and my FSH is normal.  Another RE agreed with him and both diagnosed me as "unexplained."  Shady Grove believes I am DOR however.

I am not willing to do more than one IVF because I already have a child and I'm not willing to put myself though all the side effects.  I've already done IUIs with Follistim and they were very challenging for me due to the side effects (i.e. for example I grew huge uterine polyps after each one and had to have these removed).  I also only produced 2 eggs on the max doses of Follistim which is not good.  I have made dietary changes and am on supplements.  We have now done 26 cycles of timed intercourse that have all resulted in no pregnancy.[/quote]

It seems that your best chance of getting pregnant, then, is IVF with a donor egg. If you do natural cycle IVF with a donor egg FET you can minimize your exposure to meds. If you aren't comfortable with that idea, then just toss your birth control and if it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, then you have your answer.  Have you spoken with any REs about natural cycle IVF?[/quote]

OP here.  I have not used birth control at all since I got pregnant with my son (he's not even 3 years old).  [b]We have been TTC #2 for 26 cycles of timed intercourse, never got pregnant even once.  [/b]The only time I was ever pregnant was with my son.  I did speak to Dr. Gordon at Dominion about natural cycle IVF and he said he wouldn't recommend it for me due to my low AMH.  I am not keen on the idea of donor egg but what would a donor egg FET with [b]minimal meds[/b] be like?  [/quote]

Why do you keep repeating this?!?!   Who cares?  Sounds like you need IVF.

I am 31 and had sex for four years and never got pregnant!  IVF worked on the first try.

Why do you keep harping on the meds?  You take the meds for like 10 days!  Just deal with it if you want another kid.  [/quote]

OP here.  The reason I mention that it's been 26 cycles with zero pregnancy is that all the REs I've seen say my situation is "unusual"--history of being pregnant on the first try with my son, then TTC for 2 years and nothing, not a single pregnancy, and "unexplained infertility," all within a span of less than 3 years.  REs have not discouraged me from trying IVF, but they've been frank that my chances of success are very low.  I'm just wondering if I will ever be pregnant again.[/quote]

OP, I'm the PP who suggested natural cycle, not the cranky person who jumped down your throat. So, the reason I said what I did about throwing away your birth control was not because I expected that you would get pregnant. I know the chances of that are dismal. (You clearly have secondary infertility.) My point was that with your sensitivity to meds, AMH, age, inability to get pregnant (even if only to miscarry), and all the limiting factors you've mentioned... then it seems to me that you can either hope for the best by continuing to try naturally, and come to peace with the possibility that it likely will not work, or you can do a natural cycle FET with an egg donor. In that case, you would not need to be on meds for egg retrieval since the egg donor would do that part. (Also, the egg donor will be younger and will be more likely to produce more genetically normal embies, which is an added benefit considering your age). If you then have those donor egg embies frozen, and plan on an FET instead of a fresh transfer, you will not need to take meds to align your cycle with the donor for transfer either. (In a fresh transfer with a donor, both the donor and the recipient must take meds so their cycles align. But, if you do FET, you don't need to do that.) Anyway, I think if you asked Dr. Gordon about doing a natural or minimal meds FET with an egg donor, he will be able to tell you if you are a good candidate.

And I agree with the other PP. An RE who thinks there's nothing "unusual" about a 40 year old woman who isn't getting pregnant after two years, even after a previous successful pregnancy, is... surprising. This is secondary infertility, pretty much by definition.[/quote]

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