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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Happy for the PP, but I had the opposite reaction growing up in NYC metro.  Went to private and relatively speaking (keeping in mind inflation, etc) HHI was about the same as OP.  Yes, there were kids on FA, but clearly I was not one of them (truth be told, all kids on FA at my private were minorities, and I'm not a minority).  So, didn't fit in with the FA crowd.  On the surface, I fit in fine at school.  But underneath, I was very insecure, especially when my family experienced financial difficulties due to job loss.  Kids were completely desensitized to how wealthy they were.  School trips to China (not kidding) that cost several thousand; it was not done to take into account cost when applying to college (SLACs were the way to go - why would you consider anything else).

It took me quite some time to overcome insecurity to become the confident person I am today.  I would not wish this type of atmosphere on any child, however "privileged" they are to be receiving the top flight private education.[/quote]

I actually had the opposite experience at a NE private.  My parents paid full tuition for 13 years but they were teachers.  I never had an issue fitting in because we found that most of the students at the school were old money and old money doesn't tend to flaunt it as much as new money.  For example, my best friend's family has generational wealth but they all drive Buicks and dress plainly.  You know know they have money from little things, like there multiple gorgeous custom built homes (in non sexy places), that they eat out all the time, and that a lot of their plain clothing is good stuff.  There was another girl, however, who was new money, and was all flash and Bentley's.  Just find the right school, don't talk about money with your kid, and you will be fine. [/quote]

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