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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, my views on monogamy have changed.  My view is that if the norm these days is marrying rich, [b]atheist adulterers[/b] then the norm is going to be a continual erosion of the institution of marriage, of which, monogamy is an integral part.  Marriage is hard, not sleeping with some of the cute girls at my office is hard, law school was kind of hard too, but all of the previous things are worth doing.  The problem is people don't "do" hard anymore and do whatever they want to because it pleases them.  As long as that's the attitude monogamy and marriage as we know it are in a death spiral.  I'm surprised at all the married people that seem to be ok with adultery.  If I really found someone that I wanted to sleep with and just couldn't say no then I'd go home and sit down with DW and tell her that it is over.  I wouldn't act on anything until after the divorce is final.  If DCUM is an accurate representation of the moral fiber of today's men (and women!) then we are in serious @(#!)! trouble.[/quote]

Let me first state that I am not and will never be a cheater. My husband has never cheated in any monogamous relationship either.

However, you are too idealistic. When was the institution of marriage monogamous? Ha! Monogamy is actually a modern concept(or at least the adherence to monogamy is).

You cannot even begin to compare law school(I know you qualified the comparism with "kind of hard too" but it does not cut it). Law school is three years. My inlaws have been married for 50 + years(and yes, they have always been faithful, but my father-in-law almost left one time because he wanted to sleep with another woman; luckily he snapped out of it). How can you even compare the "hards" in this situation? Marriage is a lifetime, and over a lifetime, people can lose sight of what is important.

Of course, nobody wants to stay married with someone who sleeps around all the time. But if after 10 years of marriage a spouse cheats once, and the marriage is otherwise good, I will beg them to stay together.

As for the bolded, I am not even sure what that is supposed to mean. Are you saying religious people cheat less? I completely disagree.
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