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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP.

Interesting responses. Friend A is very attractive and openly suggestive. She also seems to pick the weird guys. Her ex was a jobless loser who lied to her and mooched off her for years. She is drawn to flawed people maybe because she thinks she can't do better? It isn't true. Good guys have also been attracted to her but she always ruins those relationships.

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First you said she is moderately attractive. Now you say she's very attractive. Which is it?[/quote]

[b]She isn't conventionally attractive like friend B. [/b]She is still not ugly and can be very attractive when dressed up/makeup.[/quote]

uhh is this rocket science? Conventionally attractive people get more marriage offers.[/quote]

The attractive girls do get snatched up quickly.

Friend B is very pretty. I'd say her face is classically beautiful and she turns heads when she enters a room. I'm surprised she was single until 24. She did get a lot of attention but she held out until she found the perfect package. I am truly amazed. I have seen many friends date a couple of frogs before finding their prince. She seems to have gotten it right at the first try. She is so wholesome but also is so funny. She has no vices that I can think of and does everything in moderation. Wears crop tops to go party, only once or twice a month but has a great time when she does. Usually she has minimal makeup and preppy outfits walking around with her puppy. She doesn't party to much, drink too much, or has any off putting behavior that you can think of. Amazing.

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I have friends that never played the field waiting for the perfect prince to come along who are attractive and good women who are now panicking at 33 wondering if they'll ever get married and have kids. Friend B got lucky, good for her, but don't act like sitting alone in a tower waiting for prince charming is a realistic marriage strategy for everyone.

In fact glorifying this weird idea that men go through all the slutty girls and then find a 'good girl' who kept her morals about her to marry is kind of ridiculous and reductive. Obviously it isn't that healthy to let a whole bunch of men use you for sex, but dating a lot does not make a girl 'damaged goods' or anything. And the idea that the only marriage material girls are the ones who are sitting around all proper at 30 waiting for the crazy men folk to settle down is like...i mean its not 1950 you know?[/quote]

+1.  I have two classically beautiful, preppy, modest, sweet, well educated, ladylike, nonpartying friends with great careers who are still single at 50+.  Never married or had kids.  Your friend B got lucky.  Not everyone is.[/quote]

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