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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please explain why your needs should come before those of small children. [/quote]

Who said anything about my needs come [u]before those of small children[/u] ?
Because that suggests that some childcare need is going unmet, but [u]that is not the case at all[/u].
[b]Every single reasonable need of the kids is being met. [/b]
And there is plenty of time left over for her needs and mine.
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Are you meeting your wife's needs? Do you even know what they really are? Are you meeting your kids's needs? Or do you expect your wife to manage all of those needs (ie, do you know what need to be fed at what age? What size clothes and shoes they wear? When they need their nails trimmed? Do y have the schools' phone numbers on your cell phone? Do you know when their next check up at the peds office is due? Do you schedule those appointments, or do you expect your wife to know those?)[/quote]

I do.all that and still find the 10 Minutes it takes to have sex with my husband and affection? Not very hard. You have to be a pretty cold and dead fish to not manage to muster some affection.

You all act like having sex is akin to ruuning a marathon. The above is a load of excuses. Your passion is dead. Your vagina is dead.[/quote]

You really don't know what you're talking about.  I do all those things and have a very healthy sex life with my DH, but I went through a time when it wasn't that way.  And I wasn't making excuses or having a dead vagina (are you 13, by the way?  who talks like that?).  Believe it or not, some people's lives are harder than yours.  And some people's bodies work differently.  Hormonal changes are a major bitch, especially as you approach 40, and especially if you have little kids.  If my husband hadn't HELPED me through it, rather than judge me and be a completely selfish jerk, I wouldn't have been able to turn it around.  It's not easy for everyone.  But marriage means you pick up the burden when the other partner can't.  It doesn't mean you just say "can't do your part?  Then FU."
Unless that's the kind of marriage you want, which I guess it is.   [/quote]

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