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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP is excused for asking at first if it was a joke. But once she realized it wasn't, removing herself from the group chat/facetime was rude. And describing here that she "sadly" realized it wasn't a joke, is all we need to hear to figure out why the sister didn't share her pregnancy news in the first place.

Removing herself from the chat confirms that the sister (who OP says is prone to "drama") made the right call to keep OP at a distance.

It also sounds like OP and the sibling being in "regular contact" the last 6 months was probably both being on the group chat, not them calling each other weekly, or texting each other every few days about what the kids are up to.[/quote]

You are the one who is obtuse.  She is not sad about the baby; she is sad about the poor state of her relationship with her sibling, which she thought was fine until that moment.[/quote]

OP here. Thank you. This is exactly it. I wasn’t sad the baby was born of course, but sad that my sister didn’t think to tell me before it happened. Because of that choice, I have sadly realized that the relationship I thought we had is nonexistent, and I will no longer be in touch with this person. [b]I will redirect the energy and resources into the other children in my life whose parents value our relationship[/b]. Thank you for understanding the situation as I described it and not misconstruing my words. [/quote]

OP is no-contacting the new family member who has nothing to do with this. Nothing. This child is entirely innocent; except in the unhinged judgement of OP.

This just lends more credibility to the theory that the sibling's actions had justification.

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OP here. I am simply not willing to allow this sibling to control mu access to her child going forward. Obviously I would prefer a relationship with her child, but I am not going to beg for it or put any more energy into it. She has shown me how little she values our relationship, so I will accept that and move on. It’s fine, there are plenty of other worthy recipients of my time and money. [/quote]

Whatever helps you sleep. You have your own work to do if you think it's normal to hold resentment and cut off siblings.[/quote]

OP here. I think the choice was made for me. Why should I sweat it? Plenty of other people in my life tbh. I’m sleeping just fine. [/quote]

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