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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"I agree that kids can do great in many, many different kinds of scenarios. But does this mean, then that SAHPs are necessarily wasting their time for choosing this path?"

Yes.

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[b]That is the same as saying that breastfeeding is wasting your time because kids who are formula fed grow up to be healthy and happy. Or that having two parents is insignificant because kids from single parent homes grow up to be healthy and happy.[/b] [/quote]

No, its not, because its a cost benefit analysis. The cost to any given family, and more significantly, to the parent who stays at home are HUGE. Loss of financial freedom, loss of job opportunities, risk of being unable to reenter the workforce, loss of identity, often loss of place in society. The costs of BFing are minimal and short lived. The costs of having two parents, well sometimes, there is no other possibility, others remaining in a truly terrible marriage presents its own set of issues for children.

But, bottom line, the costs of SAHM are enormous, unless the person that chooses to do so had no career to speak of in the beginning, few career aspirations for later, and the family can well afford it. Even then, there is no way to know that the benefits of it outweigh the cost -- because there are simply no proven benefits. Unlike BFing and single parenting, there are no studies -- none -- showing that kids with SAHP fare better lonh term. Interesting, huh?[/quote]

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