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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What a terrible lesson to teach her children. Keeping up with the joneses and materialism and bragging rights is more important than family. [/quote]

What a terrible lesson it would be to teach her children to give in to whims of controlling people when they are behaving selfishly. She is teaching them how to stand up for themselves.[/quote]

Inviting someone to Christmas is behaving selfishly? Welcome to planet DCUM. [/quote]

An invitation is nice. Pouting and whining and gossiping on DCUM when someone dares not to accept your family’s invitation is immature and reveals your desire to control. Welcome to the real world. [/quote]

PP said it would be a terrible lesson to give in to people behaving selfishly. How would SIL and her kids know what has been posted here (after the fact). [b]It is bizarre how posters get bent out of shape at the idea a grandmother is upset she won't be seeing her grandchildren on Christmas anymore. [/b]Anywhere else (except reddit) people would be reacting like humans. [/quote]

Good grief.  No one is getting bent out of shape that grandma is sad.  People are (rightly) reacting to OP's initial post, and subsequent follow-ups, which suggest (or outright state) that her SIL is an evil manipulator and social climber; that her brother has no spine and is doing just what his terrible wife wants; that this is all due to SIL's desire to keep up with the Joneses; and that somehow her brother's family is in the wrong for wanting to do something different than OP thinks they should do next Christmas.  Also, she's speculating about a lot of things (SIL's motives and her plan to spend Christmas with her parents), all in a way to cast SIL in a bad light.

The only (slight) thing I can see that SIL did wrong is disclosing this during this year's celebration.  That seems unnecessary.  But given OP's characterizations here, I'm guessing it was far more innocuous than she made it appear.  Even OP admits that SIL was nice about it - it's the "premise" she finds rude.  In other words, the fact that her brother's family will not be around next Christmas is the only offense here, and that translates into "SIL told elderly MIL that this is the last Christmas she'll see family."  What nonsense.  Based on this thread alone, it can't be ruled out that part of the reason brother's family is making other plans for next Christmas is OP and her histrionics.  [/quote]

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