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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wherever you go, there you are. [/quote]

Please, please, please stop quoting this! Do you think people haven’t heard this before? It is simply not true in a lot of cases. Where you live matters![/quote]

True, but only people who have resided elsewhere, or have a frame of reference better than the DC area, understand this. [/quote]

Of course where you live matters.

This involves conflict between a wife who wants to move elsewhere vs. a husband who does not want to move  elsewhere.

The wife is repeatedly saying all the reasons why she thinks DMV sucks and that her husband is an ahole because he won't move and she is ready to divorce him.

But all of the reasons she gave were untrue. Other than money.  It's not the traffic it's not the weather it's not being close to family because she's talking about moving to Princeton.  She said she can live cheaper in Princeton and they can make equal or more combined income there.

Now someone says it's "parenting culture.". Translation it's money and status.  OP feels she can't live the comparative lifestyle she thinks she is entitled to in DMV and has a low rank in the parenting culture.  She can't afford the best private schools.  She cant afford.to live in the biggest house in the best neighborhoods with Barack and Michelle.  She can't afford a new SUV every year.

In contrast, husband is satisfied with the money they make and the lifestyle they lead.  May not put them at the top of the parental culture heap but is adequate.

Ops feelings and opinions are entitled to exactly zero priority more than her husband's.  She has not given a single good reason to uproot the entire family to move to Princeton.  It would disrupt both of their employment and the kids schooling to get what in return?  She thinks she will wind up in a better neighborhood in a better house?  Maybe maybe not.  It's a gamble.  You don't take major gambles like that with school age kids unless you have clear buy in from both parents.  She doesn't.  She is completely I persuasive.

"Wahhhhhh I am so unhappy and will divorce you if we don't move!!!" is not going to work on an actual man.[/quote]

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