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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Long story short, we are mid-40s. Wife is quite distant, [b]intimacy has struggled for years[/b]. She has finally said it's just that she wants to be alone, she's spent two decades being tethered to the kids, putting her career on hold while mine soared, etc. She's ready to live for her. I asked her is she is leaving me, she said she is considering moving out.

I know the obvious answer is "affair" and of course it could be but it doesn't feel like it.

What's the future? Do I do the 180? Fight for her? [b]It's hard to fight for someone who doesn't really want to be with you[/b].

Thanks, could use some real insight.[/quote]

You have two problems going on at once. A wife who is ready to enter a new chapter of her life and it will require you to make a change. But you aren't motivated to change because the glue that keeps couples together is sex and you aren't having it.

It's hard to be motivated to win someone back who you feel you would be better off without, but you know your kids need both of you so use them as your motivation. Who knows, maybe your wife getting a job will make her regain her sense of self and her libido but if she doesn't, then alimony will be cheaper. Hang in there.[/quote]

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