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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] Most men aren't zipping up dinners, calling girl scout leader, and signing up for camps online. Most parenting falls on the mother. She can, and should however, delegate to you more "defined tasks." Maybe you can take ownership over washing dishes, emptying dishwasher, washing towels, and on weekends, driving around kids while she quarterbacks. [/quote]

Incredibly dumb and condescending.

I am a man and I do ALL the parenting, period. Oh yeah, and I also do the cooking, the dishwasher, the laundry, and driving kids around on weekends. It really isn’t that hard. All this prima donna whining about “emotional labor” and uncompensated work at home is an effort to guilt trip men and should be ignored.[/quote]

Well, are you a single dad? Or do you need to discuss with your spouse a more appropriate division of labor?[/quote]

DP. I'd still like an answer to this, for the sake of understanding generalizability.

"I am a man" PP -- are you a man married to a woman without significant mental or physical disabilities, and this is your division of labor? Or are you effectively kind of forced into it, because there is nothing else you can do about it right now?

If it really were not "that hard," I'd be surprised that few men who could be stepping up to the plate, don't. If it doesn't take a lot of energy or time on top of an otherwise busy life, we shouldn't be seeing parents who don't automatically chip in and do it,a s part of being partners and full parents. But we don't.[/quote]

Um, have you heard of the patriarchy? An arrangement that allowed economic and hence social power to be concentrated in the hands of men and withheld from women? Men have choices whether to do this or that traditionally, and women don’t. Old patterns are hard to change.

Nothing is “that hard.” It’s just work like everything else. My husband does everything you don’t need a uterus for, including most cooking, laundry, dishes, groceries and household shopping, etc. He helped with night parenting and does mornings with the kids. His salary is double mine but our agreement from the start was that we both want our careers and having a family requires all hands on deck. I do a lot of household/family management work, child development and education, necessary research and planning that he does not, hence why he takes over many routinized tasks.[/quote]

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