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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Could it be that admissions counselors feel that someone with the privileges he has should have no problem getting these grades and scores, and that getting them in that social context is far from the impressive feat that many people assume it must be? The system is set up to reward those with the good fortune like you, me, and our kids to be born into stable families with educated parents and access to great schools and financial stability. Could it be that simply following orders to maintain an extremely comfortable lifestyle is not the key ingredient of success? You have given no hints about the things that motivate your DC and make him unique. [/quote]

No. Smart is smart.[/quote]

My brother had lowish high school grades and astoundingly high SAT scores.  It reads to admissions folks as "lazy as hell."  In my brother's case it was true.  Today, you might also assume that someone was prepped a lot to get the high SAT scores.  But a 3.6 and high SAT scores reads a bit like "he could have gotten A's but he's kind of lazy."  My brother only got into one college, the really expensive one.  Good thing my parents made a lot of money.  I don't and my kids would have been screwed.[/quote]

I am the PP who tried to gently point out the entitlement of many of us who will only accept THE BEST of everything for our kids. We really don't like to consider the fact that there are countless kids who have not done as well on paper as our kids because they had the bad luck to be born into far more difficult situations.  We don't believe our kids should ever have to face any adversity, however slight or temporary. We tell ourselves and them that no one could ever be as smart, industrious, or talented as they have been from their perfect births, and that they therefore are destined to rule the world. Anyone less privileged is not worthy of our notice.  It does not matter that OP's kids, like my own, will almost certainly, regardless of whatever college they attend, never know a day of hunger or true hopelessness.  Well, I've said my piece. Let us all return to the collective wringing of hands and gnashing of teeth.  [/quote]

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