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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The best answer is to find another place to play.  [/quote]

Best answer is actually talk to the coach. Find out the players shortcomings and see if there is a developmental plan to address the players needs.

If, after talking to the coach, there is no real plan to address the shortcomings or the coach is evasive about the players needs then absolutely find another team.

If you leave without knowing what your players limitations are, in the eyes of a coach, you will do the kid a great disservice. If you don't know or are unwilling to address the shortcomings they will not go away on their own through the magic of club practice and the same cycle will repeat itself.

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Not really.  Plenty of options out there.  Just find a better environment.  I did it for my son, and it was the best decision I made for him.  He got more confident, he got better and got recruited at the University he wanted to. [/quote]

And that worked out for you. I didn't say you have to stay at the club.

Exactly what is the downside to getting the current coaches perspective? Why not have that dialog? The coach could be wrong or off the mark but there is every chance that the coach is right. Change clubs if you want but your kid will be in a much better spot if you have an idea of what your players strengths and weaknesses are in the long run.

But I get it, people want to be outraged and blame the coach, travel soccer and just about anything but themselves. A coach may not be the best fit for your kid but that does not make them a bad coach or even wrong. It doesn't have to be personal. So, if you want the best for your kid then the best thing is to never waste an opportunity to get feedback or insight regarding your kids strengths and weaknesses. If you do that you will have more information to help guide your next decision. I really don't see what is so controversial about talking to an adult like an adult.

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That's been talked about multiple times on this thread.  And actually several posters told people to take their "loser" children to karate and other sports.  Every parent I ever knew of that tried got nothing but hostility, no matter how they tried.  But if it scratches an itch for someone, sure. Talk to the coach.  However, clubs are much more likely to recruit over top of a bottom player than to develop one.  So a fresh look and set of eyes is the approach that I have seen work out on a pretty consistent basis. [/quote]

Again, taking it personally. If you want to leave then leave but you should leave armed with as much information as possible.

If you go into the conversation defensive and confrontational you will get a a defensive coach. If you go into the conversation like an adult you will have an adult conversation. But the only way that works is if you honestly just want the information without trying to change the coaches mind. You wouldn't go to your kids teacher in school and try and convince the teacher that your kid is great at math when she is consistently getting C's. But you would go in with a different perspective of your kid and try and have a dialog of why your kid is getting C's when your experience at home is that she understands the homework but chokes on tests?

The point of the conversation is to hopefully make your kid a better soccer player not to convince the other of anything. To many parents talk to coaches in transnational terms:
My kid should get more minutes
My kid should be Center Mid

If the conversation is started with:
How can my kid earn more minutes?
My kid would like to play Center mid, what does she need to improve to earn that position?
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There's nothing personal about it.  It's a service they are selling, and a service I'm buying. [/quote]

Well, all you've actually bought is 50% playing time the rest you're wasting due to pride and arrogance. [/quote]

That's fine.  If a coach isn't interested in a player, the player should move on from the coach.  It's better to go where a coach believes in the player and will develop him. [/quote]

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