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I think you are imagining that I meant something a lot more old fashioned than I in fact meant. I don't think a man having HOH status (along with his wife and kids taking his last name) suggests that he gets to make all the decisions all the time. But it does indicate ultimate responsibility for the family. For example, my husband's job is the "big" job. It determined where we would live, and he spends a lot more time on it than I spend on my job. This "privilege" comes with responsibility. He manages his career in large part according to the needs of the family. He wouldn't travel around unnecessarily to our detriment. He wouldn't take a new role somewhere that wouldn't be good for us. He wouldn't ratchet down on a whim because we have financial goals as a family. This is a lot of pressure and responsibility, and I, for one, am damn grateful that I don't have it on my shoulders.

Now, if I had a very ambitious and talented daughter who herself wanted (and showed talent for) a "big" job, I would encourage it. [b]But this is rare[/b], even though it might not seem so to you if you live within a tiny subpopulation of self-selected over achievers. [/quote]

Every time you post I think you might be getting it or not be as bad as I think then you drop something like that in there at the end[/quote]

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