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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To the doter, before I began working full-time, I would literally spend all day Friday preparing everything for the weekend -- make sure all the laundry was done, groceries were bought, house was clean, movies picked up for movie night along with snacks, etc.  No one ever said thank you!

I only heard about how great all that stuff that I used to do on Fridays was when I went back to work and stopped doing it.  THat was the point at which my husband said, "Gee, it used to be so terrific when I would come home on Friday night and there would be a warm dinner in the oven and the smell of banana bread and a nice bottle of wine and we were all ready to settle in for the weekend."

It was small comfort to know only in retrospect that he had appreciated those efforts.  At the time, no one ever said anything.  I felt like the maid and like I was running a hotel.

But the thing is, I also realized that I enjoyed the feeling of having everything ready to go on Friday so that the weekend would be great.  I'm working from home today and I'm going to dash out during lunch to get groceries, throw in the laundry, start a nice dinner, etc.  THe point isn't not to dote, but it's to not feel bad if it's unrecognized.  Like all these posters are saying, if it makes you feel good to do something then go ahead, but don't do it expecting a pat on the head which you might not get.[/quote]

Not the doter, but thanks for this.[/quote]

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