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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So I think this thread has shown us that different families work differently. For those who didn't already know that,  here you go. Try not to be so horrified that everyone doesn't do everything like you would.[/quote]

OP here.  I think this is my takeaway from this thread.  So thank you everyone - it's a valuable takeway and helped me process and move through this.

I actually believe my sister is pretty darn consistent with me on how we view family and I think we both agree that celebratory family gatherings like this present a tremendous opportunity and reward.  But somehow sports in her kids' lives seem to trump everything for her for whatever various reasons.  I can't tell her how her nuclear family should work, even when it impacts others.  I can just be disappointed for me, my partner, my mom, my dad, my grandmother and others who all want my niece to be there with us, and even for my niece (because I subscribe to the fact that these types of moments can be a thread in the beautiful fabric that is a family over the years; sorry for the cheese!).  And even for my sister who I am sure wishes she would not have forgotten the tournament and could have her kid in both places.  But it is what it is.  I told my mom to smack me upside the head if in 14 years I end up with a different outlook.  She said she absolutely would.

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