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[quote=Anonymous]This has been a fascinating thread.

I read this [quote]It's not about pandering to ILs for me. It's about having cohesion in my family; a continuation of culture, traditions, values, etc.[/quote]

and found myself completely agreeing.  I wouldn't want my kids to marry someone with very different traditions, cultures and values simply because it can create additional challenges in a marriage.  And marriage is challenging enough when you marry someone very much like yourself.  I say this as someone who has been married 25 years.  To me, it's not about race as much as it is culture.  I dated a guy from New Jersey and my grandmother told me flat out that it would never work.  He was "too yankee".  His values and traditions were just too different.  At the time I thought she was nuts.  Looking back, I can easily see how it could create conflict.   We were raised very, very differently.  Our traditions were different.  Our values were different.   We were just very different.

On the flip side, my son is engaged to an Asian girl.  But, she was adopted.  Her parents are very much like us.  She was raised very similar to the way my son was raised.  It's not about race as much as it is values, culture, religion, and traditions.  We can pretend those things don't matter, but they do when you are talking about spending the rest of your life with someone.

Why add additional challenges to the already complicated world of relationships and marriage?[/quote]

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