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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I'm not saying that a white woman could not make a suitable partner for my son; I'm saying I don't want one to do so. It's very possible that white ILs can be absolutely accepting of the relationship, but I'd rather not take a chance and see how it all shakes out. Pandering to ILs for acceptance does not sit well with me and my son is too good to have to prove himself to anyone in that way. [/quote]

The lack of self-awareness is just stunning.  In one breath, you worry about in-laws being accepting, and in the next display the very lack of acceptance about which you worry.  Unbelievable.

And if you think marrying a black woman will insulate your son from having to pander and prove himself to judgmental, narrow-minded inlaws, you're nuts.  If you need examples of how those types of folks are found in all races and colors, take a look at the numerous examples in this thread.  Or just look in a mirror.  [/quote]

I'm sorry if my reality is different from yours, but unless you are a minority in America, you simply can't relate. That's not a bad thing...it just means you shouldn't take offense about things that do not concern you personally.

It's not about pandering to ILs for me. It's about having cohesion in my family; a continuation of culture, traditions, values, etc. [/quote]  Then why did you write "Pandering to ILs for acceptance does not sit well with me . . ."?

[b]Also, "It's a black thing, you wouldn't understand" is the last refuge of someone who has no actual support for her position.  [/quote][/b]

AMEN![/quote]

+1!!![/quote]

Let me guess...responses by white people? I'm sorry, but it's true and this thread is evidence of that fact. I have plenty of support for my position and have explained it throughout this thread. You just don't agree with it and have closed your ears to it. That's not my problem. [/quote]

And yet, our "default" responses about your negative attitude are as a result of being "butt-hurt".  riiiiiiiight.[/quote]

I have no negative attitude. Why are you so pissed about my personal opinion? Have you expressed similar outrage by other posters on this thread like:

-the white people who've said they wouldn't be comfortable with a non-white DIL/SIL
-the Jewish people who've said they wouldn't be comfortable with a non-Jewish DIL/SIL
-[b]the Irish Catholic people who've said they wouldn't be comfortable with a non-Jewish DIL/SIL[/b]

Why are you only choosing to take offense when black people dare to say something similar? [/quote]

First, this doesn't make sense.  Second, the Irish Catholic poster made clear she was being ironic.   [/quote]

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