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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]the legacy status did help. sorry. if your kid doesn't like encountering this attitude, he should apply to some places regular decision where he doesn't have any family or donor ties.[/quote]
Meh it’s about respect. If friend delivered the qualifier in a non bitter way, then sure following with “yeah that’s probably it” is a good way to respond. If friend made bitter snipe, then they can get an appropriate response that bitter snipe deserves. There a lot of nuance in how this conversation goes. No one has to suffer bitter comments from bitter people.[/quote]

It’s not a “bitter snipe” to say something like “Yeah, your parents went there.” That is simply pointing out reality.

Frankly, I think admissions boosts are something that should be openly discussed and acknowledged. It is harmful across the board to pretend that admissions is a level playing field. That myth and the fierce perpetuation of that myth is deeply undemocratic and destructive. [/quote]
Well we don’t know how it was delivered. That’s why it’s important to give extra context about an appropriate response. Only the people in that conversation can know, but I can definitely see how it could have been a dig… or not. [/quote]

OMG “yeah, your parents went there” cannot be a dig in any rational world.

You people and your demands that your children never learn the truth about the advantages of legacy admissions are genuinely crazy. [/quote]
Parents cannot admit it is why their kid was admitted. Surely he was a competitive applicant and would have gotten in anyhow. How dare you suggest otherwise![/quote]

Yes, the ego conflation the legacy parents in this thread have with their kids is quite something to see. [/quote]

Meh, sounds more like sour grapes from the non-legacy parents to me.

It's a game and some people know how to play it. Why wouldn't you encourage your kid to apply to your Alma mater if legacy preference helps them get in?!?!

College admission is not a meritocracy, and no college claims that it is. "Holistic admission" is code for "we get to admit whomever we want for whatever reason.
 
Kids and parents should be spending time finding their own "hooks" (and there are plenty to choose from!) instead of kicking this dead horse. [/quote]

Nobody objects to legacy parents using their significant advantages for their kids, for schools where those advantages exist. What people object to are the demands from legacy parents that everyone else must pretend that legacy kids don’t have a significant advantage, and that their kids never, ever hear that they got admitted because of legacy preference.

It’s the demands from the legacy parents to hide reality and to pretend the playing field is level that are objectionable. You know your kid got in because of legacy. We know your kid got in because of legacy. Other kids know your kid got in because of legacy. Everyone who knows you went to the school except for your own kid knows your kid got in because of legacy. But you want everyone to be as silent as the grave about that reality we all know exists, so your own kid never has to confront the reality everybody else knows exists.

It’s entitled and ridiculous behavior. [/quote]

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